“Since 1991, me and my husband has lost one brother each to suicide, Knut Dagfinn, my older brother, a creative fashion-shop owner, died in 1991. My dear brother in law, Gunnar, left in 2011, a musician with broad instrumental skills. Two men, both intense passionate involved with music. They influenced our direction and platform of understanding music. In 1991, when my brother left, the society was filled with shame, and the subject was avoided, no one talked openly about people committing suicide. With our upbringing, from childhood to adulthood, music was a «patch» for our dysfunctional familie. We moved alot, and the devorce devided us, and split the herd also gegraphically.“Since 1991, me and my husband has lost one brother each to suicide, Knut Dagfinn, my older brother, a creative fashion-shop owner, died in 1991. My dear brother in law, Gunnar, left in 2011, a musician with broad instrumental skills. Two men, both intense passionate involved with music. They influenced our direction and platform of understanding music. In 1991, when my brother left, the society was filled with shame, and the subject was avoided, no one talked openly about people committing suicide. With our upbringing, from childhood to adulthood, music was a «patch» for our dysfunctional familie. We moved alot, and the devorce devided us, also geographically. 3 siblings who never celebrated Christmas or Easter together again. It took me 5 years to find a inner forgiveness, to move away form the guilt end belife that I could have done so much more for my brother. Suicide relatives struggles heavely with, they suffer from many forms of guilt. After five lonley years i finally could let go of the burden, and the worst grief periode in my life was over. The heavyest weight on my on my shoulders was is to forgive yourself for not being there for my own brother.With very little openness, and deep shame, our grief consisted in lonely place, and the real hard work was a struggle with selfforgiveness. We have met others, and they are describes the same things. Music became be the greatest comfort. When the pin hits the vinyl, and music flows out in the room, you CAN reach a magic place, where your insides* feel peace and comfort. «I often use the «Moon method»,especially in the winter, and I highly recommend it. It is not crucial that you choose Beach Boys (My first chioce iscalm King Crimson, but many other bands and genders work as music therapy. The important thing is that you resort to the music you want to listen to). In other words, music picked out with the heart, not necessarily by reason. And then…let the music «wander into, or through you.»Experience says that it never takes more than five minutes before the mood starts rising again. Should you get a relapse, just repeat the treatment as much as needed.
Let’s not get hung up on the concept of quality. There is music for every occasion, and there is good music in every genre. What is incomprehensible or bad for some may be wonderful for others.
That’s why I do not smile at people who find joy in what intellectuals characterize as bad music. One of the worst things that can happen to you is to know that the music you like is not worth listening to. Let it be very clear: All music that you like and that gives you something is worth listening to.
Brian Wilson has his own explanation for why music in itself has a healing power, and why it is so important to listen to music. He says “The best music is the one that gives you the feeling of being loved. Music that helps and heals. ” The explanation makes sense, and so did Keith Moon
I often use the «Moon method», especially in the winter, and I highly recommend it. It is not crucial that you choose Beach Boys (My first chioce is calm King Crimson, but many other bands and genders work as music therapy. The important thing is that you resort to the music you want to listen to). In other words, music picked out with the heart, not necessarily by reason. And then…let the music «wander into, or through you.»
Experience says that it never takes more than five minutes before the mood starts rising again. Should you get a relapse, just repeat the treatment as much as needed.
Let’s not get hung up on the concept of quality. There is music for every occasion, and there is good music in every genre. What is incomprehensible or bad for some may be wonderful for others. That’s why I do not smile at people who find joy in what intellectuals characterize as bad music. One of the worst things that can happen to you is to know that the music you like is not worth listening to. Let it be very clear: All music that you like and that gives you something is worth listening to.
Brian Wilson has his own explanation for why music in itself has a healing power, and why it is so important to listen to music. He says “The best music is the one that gives you the feeling of being loved. Music that helps and heals. ” The explanation makes sense, and so did Keith Moon.
(Different guiltissues is a heavy weight on family members/relatives suffering with suicide loss, an often need to seek proffesional help)